MY SABOTEUR CHECK
Eight patterns. More than one way forward.
Compare eight everyday behavior patterns, their useful strengths and practical alternatives. Read every guide without taking the quiz.
Use these names as prompts, not identities
Each archetype highlights a different response to pressure. You may recognize several, recognize none, or act differently depending on context. The comparison below names a focus, a possible cost, and a small alternative. It is not a ranking of health or a validated classification. Click a name for examples, exercises, and important limits. All guides can be read freely without completing the quiz.
The Performer
When being useful becomes a test of your worth.
Focus: Achievement · Alternative: Make room for value beyond output.
The Pleaser
When keeping the peace leaves your own needs unheard.
Focus: Approval · Alternative: Let kindness include your own limits.
The Controller
When taking responsibility turns into taking over.
Focus: Certainty · Alternative: Agree on outcomes without owning every detail.
The Ghost
When stepping back becomes disappearing from what matters.
Focus: Withdrawal · Alternative: Take a small, deliberate step toward participation.
The Restless
When the next possibility crowds out the present commitment.
Focus: Novelty · Alternative: Give one worthwhile activity a defined finish.
The Judge
When evaluation stops helping and starts attacking.
Focus: Criticism · Alternative: Describe what needs changing without condemning yourself.
The Worrier
When preparing for uncertainty becomes rehearsing every danger.
Focus: Anticipation · Alternative: Separate a useful plan from a repeated prediction.
The Victim
When real frustration makes available choices hard to see.
Focus: Powerlessness · Alternative: Acknowledge what happened and find your smallest available choice.
Useful insight starts with curiosity,
not another reason to judge yourself.